Turn on the tap
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When you turn on the hot water tap, do you expect hot water to come out straight away?

I imagine the answer is no.

You switch it on, check the temp and then let it run until you get the desired hot water result.

With this ^^ in mind, why do you expect an instant result with everything else?

Quick fixes in this.

Hints and tips in that.

All without the pain of growth and development.

(Which is the sweet spot IMHO)

There is a frustration in finding out you don’t know something, and as we get older that frustration becomes something bigger.

Big enough, it seems, to actually put people off doing something unless there is a hack or shortcut.

I get this - marketing something as “will take you ages to master but is worth it” versus “ learn this in two seconds flat without any experience or prior knowledge” and you know which one will win.

The sad thing is that when people do follow the quick fix route it often gives them less satisfaction and in many cases, they don’t do it.

Which helps to reinforce the “i’m not good enough” narrative.

What if you were to try a different route.

Start something that needs daily work and focus.

Embrace the pain it causes to begin with.

And see where it leads you.

If you tried that, what would you do next?

Dave James
Down the rabbit hole I go...
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I've spent a lot of time going down the rabbit hole.

Finding a string and pulling it to see where it goes.

Sometimes it leads somewhere very cool, opening up thoughts and possibilities that I just would not have found otherwise.

Often, it's time I cannot get back. 🤣

And it just unravels a load of shit.

That can be a little frustrating, but it's something that I try to address.

(I even wrote in my journal this morning about letting go of distraction)

What are my options?

Well, I could stop looking at anything outside of my "bubble" and refuse to let anything in.

Or I could just embrace the damn thing and see where it goes.

The solution, I suspect, is one that sits somewhere between the two.

On that fancy flexible continuum of "just right", which is often saved for porridge and beds.

I'm actually quite enjoying exploring this, because it feels like the "right" rabbit hole, and maybe there's a clue in that.

Maybe the defining factor here is the rabbit hole I want, not the one that we feel we should be exploring or the one we are told to explore.

I may be gone a while.

Dave James